By Isaac Asabor
In Nigeria’s dynamic socio-political and legal landscape, controversies often erupt with dizzying intensity, sometimes escalating beyond reasonable boundaries. The recent skirmishes involving popular figures, Verydarkman and the Falanas, and now, Dele Farotimi and Afe Babalola, have captured public attention, sparking debates about boundaries, accountability, and the consequences of one’s actions. These episodes remind us of the famous Nigerian saying, “Egungun be careful,” a metaphor laden with caution and cultural wisdom.
For the sake of clarity, the phrase “Egungun be careful” originates from the Yoruba cultural tradition, where the Egungun represents masquerades that embody ancestral spirits. These masquerades are both revered and feared, often seen as spiritual entities with immense power. However, their performances involve calculated movements and adherence to traditional boundaries. When a masquerade steps out of line or gets too carried away in the fervor of its performance, it risks dire consequences, such as falling or exposing its humanity, a grave taboo.
In broader terms, the phrase has evolved into a cautionary expression, advising people, especially those in positions of power or influence, to tread carefully and avoid actions that could lead to ruin or disgrace.
The conflict between social media influencer Verydarkman and the Falana family serves as a poignant example of the need for caution. What began as a disagreement quickly spiraled into a public spectacle, with accusations, counter-accusations, and legal threats flying in all directions.
For Verydarkman, a figure known for his bold social commentary, the temptation to “dance” on the public stage proved too enticing. Similarly, the Falanas, a respected family in Nigeria’s legal and activist circles, found themselves embroiled in a feud that threatened to dent their hard-earned reputation.
The key lesson here is that not every battle needs to be fought in the public eye. The court of public opinion is a volatile space where perception often overshadows facts. Engaging in such disputes without restraint can lead to unintended consequences, including reputational damage and the erosion of trust.
The recent clash between Dele Farotimi, a lawyer and activist, and Afe Babalola, a legal luminary, is another scenario where the “Egungun be careful” admonition applies. Dele Farotimi, known for his fiery rhetoric and advocacy for societal reform, in his book, ‘Nigeria and Its Criminal Justice System’, alleges that Babalola influenced Nigeria’s Supreme Court to secure fraudulent judgments for his clients, casting doubt on the judiciary’s integrity.
Afe Babalola, a man whose contributions to Nigeria’s legal system and education sector are monumental, found himself in the uncomfortable position of having to respond to what seemed like an unprovoked attack. The fallout from this altercation has not only polarized opinions but also drawn attention away from the substantive issues both individuals stand for.
This episode underscores the importance of constructive dialogue. While criticism is a vital tool for accountability, it must be wielded with respect and an understanding of context. Failing to do so risks undermining the very causes one seeks to champion.
In a world increasingly dominated by social media and instant communication, the admonition to “be careful” is more relevant than ever. The speed at which information, and misinformation spreads means that a single misstep can have far-reaching consequences.
For public figures, the stakes are even higher. Their words and actions are constantly scrutinized, and any perceived misstep can quickly escalate into a full-blown crisis. The phrase “Egungun be careful” serves as a reminder to pause, reflect, and consider the potential implications of one’s actions before proceeding.
The key to avoiding the pitfalls that have ensnared figures like Verydarkman, the Falanas, Dele Farotimi, and Afe Babalola lies in practicing the following principles:
Firstly, know when to walk away: Not every provocation warrants a response. Sometimes, silence is the most powerful statement.
Secondly, choose your battles wisely: Before engaging in a public dispute, consider whether the issue at hand is worth the potential fallout.
Thirdly, seek dialogue, not conflict: Constructive dialogue fosters understanding and resolution, while conflict often leads to division and escalation.
Fourthly, respect boundaries: Criticism should never cross the line into personal attacks or disrespect.
Fifthly, remember your humanity: Even as public figures, it is important to remain humble and acknowledge the potential for error.
Given the foregoing, there is no denying the fact that there is an urgent need for everyone to call for Reflection. This is as the incidents involving these prominent figures should serve as a wake-up call for everyone, particularly those in positions of influence. The power of words and actions cannot be underestimated, and with great power comes great responsibility.
In the end, the saying “Egungun be careful” is more than just a cautionary phrase; it is a call for mindfulness, accountability, and respect. Whether you are a social media influencer, a legal luminary, or an activist, the wisdom of this age-old proverb remains timeless.
As we navigate the complexities of modern life, let us all remember the Egungun, whose performance is only as graceful as its adherence to tradition and boundaries. And when the urge to act impulsively arises, may we pause and remind ourselves: “Egungun, be careful.”
